Couples Therapy
Understanding the deeper stories your relationship tells. Building connection beyond conflict.
Couples often come to therapy feeling stuck, caught in painful cycles of conflict, distance, or emotional disconnection. You may find yourselves repeating the same arguments, struggling to communicate, or unsure how to feel close again. If you're wondering why this keeps happening, or if there's something deeper beneath the surface, couples therapy can offer a space to explore, understand, and change those patterns of relating to help you feel good about your relationship again.
Who Couples Therapy Is For
This work is helpful for couples who are seeking more than symptom relief, and who are curious about what their relationship patterns reveal about themselves and each other. It’s for partners who are open to exploring how past experiences show up in the present, and who want to move toward deeper, more authentic connection.
Whether you're feeling emotionally distant, locked in conflict, or trying to rebuild trust, couples therapy can help you slow down, find steadier ground in emotionally charged moments, understand what’s happening beneath the surface, and begin relating in new ways.
My Approach to Couples Therapy
My approach integrates systems thinking with psychoanalytic traditions, which focus on the unconscious aspects of emotional and relational life. We all have thoughts and feelings we’re aware of, but we also carry experiences, expectations, and emotional reactions that operate outside of awareness. These unconscious patterns, shaped by earlier relationships and experiences, often play out in couples in ways that are painful, confusing, or hard to make sense of.
At the same time, I view your relationship as a system, one in which each of you takes up particular roles, and in which dynamics are co-created and reinforced over time. These roles and dynamics don’t emerge in a vacuum; they reflect each partner’s emotional history, as well as the unique system the two of you have formed together. By paying attention to how you function both as individuals and as a unit, we can better understand how you impact one another, and what keeps certain cycles recurring.
We’ll explore what’s happening now and your histories that shaped it. While my approach is responsive to your present concerns, early relationships leave an imprint that informs how you experience closeness, conflict, vulnerability, and trust. By understanding how each of you brings your own history into your relationship, and how you replay familiar dynamics with one another, we can begin to create space for something new and different.
This work can help each of you begin to see the other more clearly, not through the lens of old wounds or assumptions, but for who you really are, and who you’re becoming together.
What We Explore in Therapy
The unconscious roles and emotional positions you are pulled to take up in the relationship
Cycles of conflict, distance, or disconnection, and the deeper meaning behind them
How your family histories and early attachments shape current dynamics
Difficulties with trust, emotional expression, or vulnerability
How each partner’s inner world impacts the shared relationship
AREAS of Focus
I can help you and your partner address a range of challenges, including:
Life transitions and changing roles
Affairs and infidelity, and rebuilding trust and repair after betrayal
Poor communication, frequent misunderstandings, or emotional shutdowns
Frequent or intense arguments that feel circular or unresolved
Unmet emotional needs or a sense of growing apart
Difficulty committing or ambivalence about the relationship
Sexual or intimacy concerns
Parenting stress, family strain, or conflict around caregiving roles
Financial stressors and their emotional impact
Feeling stuck in roles or patterns that no longer serve the relationship
Getting Started
If you and your partner are feeling stuck, disconnected, or caught in repeating dynamics, couples therapy can help you begin to understand what’s beneath the surface and work toward a more honest, connected, and meaningful relationship.
Reach out for a consultation to see whether this approach feels like the right fit for you both.